Getting Rid of Emotional Clutter

When most people think of organizing, the image of physical tasks come to mind. Clutter can also be emotional. Negativity from thoughts, self talk and toxic relationships use unnecessary energy.

Never use the words "I can't"! I always say that perception is everything. Using the words "I can't" sets people up for failure. Instead, say "I am not able to do ______ at this time". This creates a positive mind set and leaves open the possibility for change. You will be surprised at the powerful effect words have on your emotions.

Get Rid of Toxic Relationships. These are those relationships that make you feel "weighed down". Does seeing a particular person's phone number on the caller ID make you cringe? Do you feel drained after talking with that person? Is it a one sided relationship? These are all clues that you may have a toxic relationship with that person. Try to end the relationship if possible. At bare minimum, limit the time spent with them. Negative energy not only causes stress, but can cause physical and emotional illness.

Clarify Your Lifelong Goals. Write down the goals you want to accomplish in your life (raising well adjusted children, starting a business, furthering your education, buying a house). View each behavior in your life in relation to these goals. If a particular behavior in your life is not helpful in meeting these goals, seek to change it. Is having the biggest house on the block going to help you achieve inner peace? Will buying the kids designer clothes help them learn to be better people?

Be A Forward Thinker! Try not to dwell on the past. Change is only possible in the present and future. We can only change ourselves and our response to situations: not others.